CARE Strategies

How to speak your language of sex, love and play

CARE Strategies
How to speak your language of sex, love and play

When we think of love, romance, relationships, sex and fucking, other thoughts and frameworks come to mind. Fireworks, cruising, a dozen roses, and unspoken chemistry are the cornerstones of navigating sex and intimacy. But in the real world, we know that getting what we desire and working to make a just and vibrant exchange within sexual dynamics doesn't just happen. We have to talk, discuss, negotiate and be held accountable for all of our desires – those spoken and unspoken. This of course is easier said than done in a world where love has many languages; where race, gender and class oppression abound and where many of us are recovering from trauma. Join us for a workshop on how to navigate the complex language of consent, safety and getting what you desire. We will use roleplaying and storytelling as tools.

`Participants will

  • identify their sexual boundaries

  • understand broad sexual negotiation

  • identify safety and survival skills

  • identify how sexual violence has specifically impacted their sexual development `

  • understand our power to create our own happiness and security

  • understand Ignacio’s Intentional Human Sexuality Model as a broader sexuality framework and healing tool .

Ignacio G. Hutía Xeiti Rivera, M.A. who prefers the gender neutral pronoun, They, is an activist, writer, educator, sex(ual) healer , filmmaker, performance artist and mother. Ignacio has over 20 years of experience on multiple fronts, including economic justice, anti-racist and anti-violence work, as well as mujerista, LGBTQI and sex positive movements. They are the founder and curator of Poly Patao Productions for almost 20 years—which centers the sexual liberation of LGBTQI people of color. 

Ignacio is the founder and Director of The HEAL Project—which works towards a cultural shift on how we communicate with our children about sex(uality) as a (child sexual abuse) prevention tool. Ignacio is  the creator and co-host of Pure Love Talks -- a Youtube talkshow-- with their adult daughter Amanda. They story-tell and attempt to go beyond theory-to-practice on how one navigates the broad topic(s) of sex(uality) within the institution (of the broadest definition) of family.

Ignacio is also the founder of (Re)Nude Sex(uality) Coaching, a sexual healing practice that centers LGBTQI/POC survivor. (Re)Nude works with those who desire to renew or reconnect to sex, those who are ready to have new sexual explorations, which includes the act of self-determined sex and sexuality. Ignacio's work is influenced by their lived experience of homelessness, poverty and sexual trauma. Ignacio’s work is also driven by the strengths of identifying as transgender, Yamoká-hu/Two-Spirit, Black, Boricua,Taíno, sober, polyamorous and queer.